The
life of Aisha is proof that a woman can be far more
learned than men and that she can be the teacher of
scholars and experts. Her life is also proof that
a woman can exert influence over men and women and
provide them with inspiration and leadership. Her
life is also proof that the same woman can be totally
feminine and be a source of pleasure, joy and comfort
to her husband.
She did not graduate from any university there were
no universities as such in her day. But still her
utterances are studied in faculties of literature,
her legal pronouncements are studied in colleges of
law and her life and works are studied and researched
by students and teachers of Muslim history as they
have been for over a thousand years.
The bulk of her vast treasure of knowledge was obtained
while she was still quite young. In her early childhood
she was brought up by her father who was greatly liked
and respected for he was a man of wide knowledge,
gentle manners and an agreeable presence. Moreover
he was the closest friend of the noble Prophet
who was a frequent visitor to their home since the
very early days of his mission.
In her youth, already known for her striking beauty
and her formidable memory, she came under the loving
care and attention of the Prophet
himself. As his wife and close companion she acquired
from him knowledge and insight such as no woman has
ever acquired.
Aisha became the Prophet's
wife in Makkah when she was most likely in the 9th
year of her life but her wedding did not take place
until the second year after the Hijrah when she was
about fourteen or fifteen years old. Before and after
her wedding she maintained a natural jollity and innocence
and did not seem at all overawed by the thought of
being wedded to him who was the Messenger of God whom
all his companions, including her own mother and father,
treated with such love and reverence as they gave
to no one else.
About her wedding, she related that shortly before
she was to leave her parent's house, she slipped out
into the courtyard to play with a passing friend:
"I was playing on a see-saw and my long streaming
hair was dishevelled," she said. "They came
and took me from my play and made me ready."
They dressed her in a wedding-dress made from fine
red-striped cloth from Bahrain and then her mother
took her to the newly-built house where some women
of the Ansar were waiting outside the door. They greeted
her with the words "For good and for happiness
may all be well!" Then, in the presence of the
smiling Prophet ,
a bowl of milk was brought. The Prophet
drank from it himself and offered it to Aisha. She
shyly declined it but when he insisted she did so
and then offered the bowl to her sister Asma who was
sitting beside her. Others also drank of it and that
was as much as there was of the simple and solemn
occasion of their wedding. There was no wedding feast.
Marriage to the Prophet
did not change her playful ways. Her young friends
came regularly to visit her in her own apartment.
"I would be playing with my dolls," she
said, "with the girls who were my friends, and
the Prophet
would come in and they would slip out of the house
and he would go out after them and bring them back,
for he was pleased for my sake to have them there."
Sometimes he would say "Stay where you are"
before they had time to leave, and would also join
in their games. Aisha said: "One day, the Prophet
came in when I was playing with the dolls and he said:
'O Aisha, whatever game is this?' 'It is Solomon's
horses,' I said and he laughed." Sometimes as
he came in he would screen himself with his cloak
so as not to disturb Aisha and her friends.
Aisha's early life in Madinah also had its more serious
and anxious times. Once her father and two companions
who were staying with him fell ill with a dangerous
fever which was common in Madinah at certain seasons.
One morning Aisha went to visit him and was dismayed
to find the three men lying completely weak and exhausted.
She asked her father how he was and he answered her
in verse but she did not understand what he was saying.
The two others also answered her with lines of poetry
which seemed to her to be nothing but unintelligible
babbling. She was deeply troubled and went home to
the Prophet
saying:" They are raving, out of their minds,
through the heat of the fever." The Prophet
asked what they had said and was somewhat reassured
when she repeated almost word for word the lines they
had uttered and which made sense although she did
not fully understand them then. This was a demonstration
of the great retentive power of her memory which as
the years went by were to preserve so many of the
priceless sayings of the Prophet .
Of the Prophet's
wives in Madinah, it was clear that it was Aisha that
he loved most. From time to time, one or the other
of his companions would ask:
"O Messenger of God, whom do you love most in
the world?" He did not always give the same answer
to this question for he felt great love for many for
his daughters and their children, for Abu Bakr, for
Ali, for Zayd and his son Osama. But of his wives
the only one he named in this connection was Aisha.
She too loved him greatly in return and often would
seek reassurance from him that he loved her. Once
she asked him: "How is your love for me?"
"Like the rope's knot," he replied meaning
that it was strong and secure. And time after time
thereafter, she would ask him: "How is the knot?"
and he would reply: "Ala Halima in the same
condition."
As she loved the Prophet
so was her love a jealous love and she could not bear
the thought that the Prophet's
attentions should be given to others more than seemed
enough to her. She asked him: "O Messenger of
God, tell me of yourself. If you were between the
two slopes of a valley, one of which had not been
grazed whereas the other had been grazed, on which
would you pasture your flocks?"
"On that which had not been grazed," replied
the Prophet .
"Even so," she said, "and I am not
as any other of your wives. "Everyone of them
had a husband before you, except myself." The
Prophet
smiled and said nothing. Of her jealousy, Aisha would
say in later years: "I was not, jealous of any
other wife of the Prophet
as I was jealous of Khadija, because of his constant
mentioning of her and because God had commanded him
to give her good tidings of a mansion in Paradise
of precious stones. And whenever he sacrificed a sheep
he would send a fair portion of it to those who had
been her intimate friends. Many a time I said to him:
"It is as if there had never been any other woman
in the world except Khadija."
Once, when Aisha complained and asked why he spoke
so highly of "an old Quraish woman", the
Prophet
was hurt and said: "She was the wife who believed
in me when others rejected me. When people gave me
the lie, she affirmed my truthfulness. When I stood
forsaken, she spent her wealth to lighten the burden
of my sorrow."
Despite her feelings of jealousy which nonetheless
were not of a destructive kind, Aisha was really a
generous soul and a patient one. She bore with the
rest of the Prophet's
household poverty and hunger which often lasted for
long periods. For days on end no fire would be lit
in the sparsely furnished house of the Prophet
for cooking or baking bread and they would live merely
on dates and water. Poverty did not cause her distress
or humiliation; self-sufficiency when it did come
did not corrupt her style of life.
Once the Prophet
stayed away from his wives for a month because they
had distressed him by asking of him that which he
did not have. This was after the Khaybar expedition
when an increase of riches whetted the appetite for
presents. Returning from his self-imposed retreat,
he went first to Aisha's apartment. She was delighted
to see him but he said he had received Revelation
which required him to put two options before her.
He then recited the verses:
"O Prophet !
Say to your wives: If you desire the life of this
world and its adornments, then come and I will bestow
its goods upon you, and I will release you with a
fair release. But if you desire God and His Messenger
and the abode of the Hereafter, then verily God has
laid in store for you an immense reward for such as
you who do good."
Aisha's reply was:
"Indeed I desire God and His Messenger and the
abode of the Hereafter," and her response was
followed by all the others. She stuck to her choice
both during the lifetime of the Prophet
and afterwards. Later when the Muslims were favoured
with enormous riches, she was given a gift of one
hundred thousand dirham's. She was fasting when she
received the money and she distributed the entire
amount to the poor and the needy even though she had
no provisions in her house. Shortly after, a maidservant
said to her: "Could you buy meat for a dirham
with which to break your fast?"
"If I had remembered, I would have done so,"
she said. The Prophet's
affection for Aisha remained to the last. During his
final illness, it was to Aisha's apartment that he
went at the suggestion of his wives. For much of the
time he lay there on a couch with his head resting
on her breast or on her lap. She it was who took a
tooth stick from her brother, chewed upon it to soften
it and gave it to the Prophet .
Despite his weakness, he rubbed his teeth with it
vigorously. Not long afterwards, he lost consciousness
and Aisha thought it was the onset of death, but after
an hour he opened his eyes.
Aisha it is who has preserved for us these dying moments
of the most honoured of God's creation, His beloved
Messenger may He shower His choicest blessings on
him.
When he opened his eyes again, Aisha remembered Iris
having said to her: "No Prophet
is taken by death until he has been shown his place
in Paradise and then offered the choice, to live or
die."
"He will not now choose us," she said to
herself. Then she heard him murmur: "With the
supreme communion in Paradise, with those upon whom
God has showered His favour, the Prophets
,
the martyrs and the righteous..." Again she heard
him murmur: "O Lord, with the supreme communion,"
and these were the last words she heard him speak.
Gradually his head grew heavier upon her breast, until
others in the room began to lament, and Aisha laid
his head on a pillow and joined them in lamentation.
In the floor of Aisha's room near the couch where
he was lying, a grave was dug in which was buried
the Seal of the Prophets
amid much bewilderment and great sorrow.
Aisha lived on almost fifty years after the passing
away of the Prophet .
She had been his wife for a decade. Much of this time
was spent in learning and acquiring knowledge of the
two most important sources of God's guidance, the
Qu'ran and the Sunnah of His Prophet .
Aisha was one of three wives (the other two being
Hafsah and Um Salama) who memorized the Revelation.
Like Hafsah, she had her own script of the Qu'ran
written after the Prophet
had died.
So far as the Hadits or sayings of the Prophet
is concerned, Aisha is one of four persons (the others
being Abu Hurayrah, Abdullah ibn Omar, and Anas ibn
Malik) who transmitted more than two thousand sayings.
Many of these pertain to some of the most intimate
aspects of personal behaviour which only someone in
Aisha's position could have learnt. What is most important
is that her knowledge of Hadits was passed on in written
form by at least three persons including her nephew
Urwah who became one of the greatest scholars among
the generation after the Companions.
Many of the learned companions of the Prophet
and their followers benefited from Aisha's knowledge.
Abu Musa al-Ashari once said: "If we companions
of the Messenger of God had any difficulty on a matter,
we asked Aisha about it."
Her nephew Urwah asserts that she was proficient not
only in fiqh but also in medicine (tibb) and poetry.
Many of the senior companions of the Prophet
came to her to ask for advice concerning questions
of inheritance which required a highly skilled mathematical
mind. Scholars regard her as one of the earliest fuqaha
of Islam along with persons like Omar ibn al-Khattab,
Ali and Abdullah ibn Abbas. The Prophet
referring to her extensive knowledge of Islam is reported
to have said: "Learn a portion of your religion
(din) from this red collared lady." "Humayra"
meaning "Red-coloured" was an epithet given
to Aisha by the Prophet .
Aisha not only possessed great knowledge but took
an active part in education and social reform. As
a teacher she had a clear and persuasive manner of
speech and her power of oratory has been described
in superlative terms by al-Ahnaf who said: "I
have heard speeches of Abu Bakr and Omar, Othman and
Ali and the Khulafa up to this day, but I have not
heard speech more persuasive and more beautiful from
the mouth of any person than from the mouth of Aisha."
Men and women came from far and wide to benefit from
her knowledge. The number of women is said to have
been greater than that of men. Besides answering enquiries,
she took boys and girls, some of them orphans, into
her custody and trained them under her care and guidance.
This was in addition to her relatives who received
instruction from her. Her house thus became a school
and an academy.
Some of her students were outstanding. We have already
mentioned her nephew Urwah as a distinguished reporter
of Hadits. Among her women pupils is the name of Umrah
bint Abdur Rahman. She is regarded by scholars as
one of the trustworthy narrators of Hadits and is
said to have acted as Aisha's secretary receiving
and replying to letters addressed to her. The example
of Aisha in promoting education and in particular
the education of Muslim women in the laws and teachings
of Islam is one which needs to be followed.
After Khadija al-Kubra (the Great) and Fatima as-Zahra
(the Resplendent), Aisha as-Siddiqah (the one who
affirms the Truth) is regarded as the best woman in
Islam. Because of the strength of her personality,
she was a leader in every field in knowledge, in society,
in politics and in war. She often regretted her involvement
in war but lived long enough to regain position as
the most respected woman of her time. She died in
the year 58 AH in the month of Ramadan and as she
instructed, was buried in the Jannat al-Baqi in the
City of Light, beside other companions of the Prophet
.
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